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Am I too sexually addicted to muscle?

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I find it interesting how many of you guys related to not wanting or needing sex to be sexual satisfied. You would think if that's the case more of us would get together and have met up and jerked off to muscle together. I always found myself to be more  comfortable doing this than any actual penitrative sex. Every couple defines their own relationship so if all you do is masturbate and you're happy doing that together, then i don't see a problem. As gay men it's not required for us to do traditional sex in order to survive as a species. Nor is it for anyone beyond GLBTQ members at this point.As long as there are more breeders than gays, we will be fine.

BUT to play devils advocate there's a difference between your fetish and sexual activity. Fetishes can be part of your sexual activity but for a lot of peoples fetishes stand on their own. I in my past have always loved muscle and growth but when I'm with the right guy I have found ways to rationalize sexually certain attractive attributes about them that I never found attractive before I met them. I also have been told that the more you actively try penetration (of either type) the more you'll grow to find it arousing or hitting the right buttons as they say. It's not a slam dunk right off the bat (pun intended). My trouble has always been finding some patient enough to let me be inexperienced and help me explore sex beyond muscle. 

I think the lack of traditional sex drive might also be due to our over saturation of sexual media that is easily a few buttons away at any given moment. If all of a sudden we lost the ability to use technology for sexual gratification we would settle for something less specific out of desperate need for release. 

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Am i too sexually addicted to muscle?

For me no because there is no "too much" for me in this aspect, since it doesnt bring me any bad side effect, only pleasure.

The more muscle the better, and i only have sex with muscle guys, but i do need SEX.

For me muscle and sex dont exist separated, its the combo that makes me have a happy ending :)

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@Deebee I don't know why I'm just now discovering this post, but your first post in this thread is extremely similar to how I feel.

I honestly don't know if I could say I'm "too" sexually attracted to muscle, but I will say that I know it feels damn good, and I also know I can't help the fact that muscle is just about the only thing that gets me turned on.  I'm attracted to guys, yes, but the ones to whom I'm most attracted are the ones with muscles.  And I can't help that.  It certainly doesn't help that I'm a skinny guy who can't add my own muscle no matter how hard I try, which makes it all that much harder to attract muscular guys.  I've found that muscled dudes tend to be attracted only to other muscled dudes.  So, I've mostly resigned myself to just being satisfied with looking at whatever muscle media I can find and doing what needs to be done.  I've honestly tried to be with other men who are mainly nondescript, and it's been dull. 

I've honestly had an attraction not just to muscles, but growth as well since I was just a kid.  I knew even at the age of 5 (maybe even younger) that looking at muscles made me feel weird.  I couldn't make sense of it.  As I got older, I realized that muscles and muscle-growth made my dick get hard, but still, I was too young to truly know what it meant.  Back then, I just knew it felt good.  It wasn't until I was 13 when I finally (and accidentally, since I didn't truly know what I was doing) jerked off while reading a muscle-growth story.  It was at that point that I started to understand what all of this meant.  I still, however, had no idea just how much I was attracted to muscles.  It wasn't until the past several years that I finally started to realize that muscles are just about the only thing I'm attracted to.  Maybe that will change as I get older.  Who really knows? 

I still try every now and then to find muscled dudes who might want to get together, but I'm never successful.  So, I've kind of made peace with the idea that I'll never find what I'm looking for (at least in real life).  I have to be content with what I can get, which, thanks to this website and others, is quite plentiful.  I just long for the touch of real muscles.

I do not think I am too sexually attracted to muscle, though.  I just wish I was wired to be attracted to other things.

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@pasidious that’s similar to how I have felt, BUT... I do think there something we can do about it. For example, if you go at least several weeks with no “artificial” stimulation, meaning muscle media delivered over the Internet or TV, and also don’t jerk off, the things that turn you on may start to change. It’s hard to do, because like you said it feels good to consume muscle media, but it’s worth it at least to experience what happens. 

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@pasidious, your story sounds quite similar to mine, from feeling strange around the sight of muscle at quite an early age to being underweight and being a hard gainer.  I think that the topic as presented, that is, being "sexually" addicted verses not being sexually addicted, but perhaps being addicted to muscles without a sexual component  (or perhaps thinking that you cannot fulfill your own sexual potential unless you, yourself, have big muscles), is a little tricky if you think about it.

What I have found that works for me is to first do what you can to build up your muscles to how you want your body to look.  You also need to be honest with yourself as to what your genetic potential is.  Look at your brothers and male cousins if you have any.  Not everyone can look like a linebacker or professional bodybuilder.  Once you have reached your primary needs for your own body, you just might find that what you thought you needed in others might not be so demanding in the muscle department.

There are a couple of websites the I found to be helpful for hard gainers.  I don't think we're supposed to reference other websites in the forum because there may be links to viruses and such.  Send me an email is you'd like a link.  One of the biggest things I've learned is that the way that a natural bodybuilder should work out is incredibly different from how an enhanced bodybuilder would work out.

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@Muscleinatl I appreciate your offer.  I was going to send you a private message but the forum isn't allowing me for some reason.  If you want, send me any links you think are pertinent on the Discord, my name is Neo on there.  If you prefer another method, send it through a PM on this site, it should allow you to send it to me. 

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@qwerty47666 I actually have gone literally weeks without looking at muscle stuff.  I can be completely honest and say that sometimes I need a break from looking at muscle stuff all the time, and usually my own body lets me know that by not being as horny about it.  But, even then, I find that I just get bored, in general.  In those brief periods of time, I just tend to be more "asexual" than anything else, and it's really strange to me how that works.  But then, one day, I'll wake up and suddenly have this ridiculous morning wood and I'll see something about muscle and I'll lose my shit!  It's fascinating, but annoying at the same time.

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@pasidious yea, the days when you are not horny don’t count as much, you have to power through the days where you are horny and also not looking at muscle. At that point the brain will start accepting new things as sexually stimulating instead of following the channels carved out by muscle media. 

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Thought I'd chime in with my own personal stance, which is a little different from a lot of you guys. Like many of you guys, I have been into muscles ever since I was little, whether that was seeing them in cartoons and the media, or just people around me. Thus, as I started maturing, muscles pretty much began to be exclusively what I sought out online. I could not imagine watching, reading, or looking at something sexual that didn't involve muscles in some way--kind of a problem if you ask me. Even just my general fantasies to this day all have a muscle component to them. Yet, my love for muscles has nowhere near that impact on my life off the computer. Yes, I still seek out guys who have some sort of muscle, that being my greatest turn on, but it isn't a requirement. I am still really attracted to guys in general, even if they are skinny for example. So maybe you can say I'm not as addicted, even though it is something I think about literally all the time and can't imagine being online and not eventually seeking that out. 

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Putting in my thoughts here as well. Like deebee, muscle has somehow become almost an addiction for me. In the sense that if someone was not fit, muscular, or big-framed in some sense, I would not be as interested in that guy. And yet, I am also not someone who would enjoy the idea of casual sex. So, it's a weird space where I have to question in what balance do I include this fetish, and in what portion do I be realistic in finding a relationship.

For me, the fetish is strong enough to almost be a problem. In the sense that I can lose focus of my life if I don't balance the desire in some form or another. If I don't do anything it gnaws on my psyche forever, (not too bad, but annoying) and on the other end if I overindulge it or express it in the wrong way (for me that's anything related to casual sex or porn), it becomes almost engulfing in its intensity.

One thing that IS sort of helping me is starting to work out. Ironically, it eases the tension. But I always think: "How do I coexist with this?". I don't hate having such an interest in muscle, in fact I enjoy it. It's rather the difficulties that surround such intense want for it that tires me out.

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