on top of humiliation. I made him admit how weak and puny he was. He loved every minute of it. I loved tossing him around. It made me feel even hornier and I loved the feeling that gave me!
The thing is, it all depends on the person. Body dysmorphia comes from a lack of self esteem, yes. But most people that have it aren't looking for other people toù actively tell them how small they are. Most of the time, it's guys that reach a certain size and other people constantly tell them they are getting bigger. The issue comes from childhood, from early development. I have had this issue most of my life on a minimal level but with me gallavanting all over the world teaching in areas without gyms, I had to make due for being simply fit most of the time (now is one of those times) However, I know a friend...one of my best friends, who never thinks of himself as big enough and we have had many very deep conversations about it because it was affecting his happiness. So with some people, yes, that happens. But this site in no way affects that. It promotes dreams. It promotes happiness. Muscle makes me happy. Stories where characters get humiliated usually turn me on. I draw the line at intense physical violence, but that's me. Other people get turned on by that, too. But we aren't promoting violence, either. Fiction is fiction and with erotic fiction, it comes from the id. The id is not about reason. It is about wanting immediate fulfillment and that is not reasonable. That's why I jack off to outrageous fantasies of bodybuilders dominating everyone around them, and the world accommodating them and even applauding them for it. It gives me great happiness and makes me hard as hell.
The link between humiliation fantasy and body dysmorphia is non existent. Body dysmorphia comes from real life trauma, from rejection by society or family, or an event or events that triggered a reaction of constant...well, I wouldn't call it self-hate so much as a deeply unsatisfied ego. People that can't give themselves credit or see themselves as others see them because they are stuck in a period of their lives where that sensation and feeling was intensified. Hoarders also experience this to some degree in the opposite direction, in that when they hoard things they are usually hoarding memories of a better time in their lives. For them, it's inverse and they are desperately trying to relive happier times. With body dysmorphia, the individual is constantly reliving moments where they didn't think they were big enough because of a complicated series of interactions at a pivotal time.
Fantasy and erotic fantasy, hell even lifestyles where you have dominant and submissive men living their lives together in a way that most people don't, with strict authoritarian personal lives, are fulfilling a goal towards happiness. Most bodybuilders are also doing this, following a goal that makes them feel great, sexually satisfied and a "better version" of themselves. This idea gets intensified on this site quite a lot.
But are we to blame? No. And from what I've seen, this site does nothing but encourage its users to get bigger to make themselves happy, as well as make us happy. That's really the icing on the beefcake though, if you will.
Make me respond to your post with this one, even if it won't be so well written and explained as yours. Forgive some mistakes. I agree that fantasy doesn't have to do with reason but with our irrational mind ("id", as Freud called it), but that doesn't mean there is not a reason behind that fantasy. We don't see it, because it is somehow hidden, not explicit (unconscious). Fullfilling that fantasy is not the solution to our real needs/problems. Furthermore, even if there may not be a link between humilation fantasy and dismorphia (I cannot think of one now), there is definitely one between humiliation and dismorphia. As you said, dismorphia is caused by low-self esteem, which is caused by a negative conviction about yourself acquired in a very important moment of your life. Dismorphia makes you feel insignificant and, when you happen to compare to muscular men, you feel humiliated. You are attracted to them, you need them, but they make dislike yourself, even if they don't want to.